Soulful Voices

{February 15, 2007}   Truth About Life


I’ll be happy when…
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, when we are able to go on a nice vacation or when we retire. The truth is there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges.

It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with … and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting …
Until your car or home is paid off.
Until you get a new car or home.
Until your kids leave the house.
Until you go back to school.
Until you finish school.
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married.
Until you get a divorce.
Until you have kids.
Until you retire.
Until summer..
Until spring.
Until winter.
Until fall.
Until you die.

There is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So work like you don’t need money, love like you’ve never been hurt, and, dance like no one’s watching.


{December 30, 2006}   Don’t Throw Away What You Have


Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have.”Bro, this girl in my office is a Real Looker,” many a husband will say. “But it’s not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I’m head over heels with her because she’s also understanding, intelligent, tender– so many things that my wife has not.”

Guys, trust me on this. Somewhere along the way, you’ll find a woman who will be more charming. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Be abbetter cook. Have greater sex appeal. Be a more efficient housekeeper. And you will find a woman who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your wife ever did.

Because no wife is perfect.
Because a wife will only have 90% of what you’re looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband looks for the missing 10%.

Let’s say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: “I broke my arm yesterday, LOL…” Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt. Or because your wife is the quiet type (a rare find), your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host like Oprah.

But wait! That’s only 10% of what you don’t have.
Don’t throw away the 90% that you already have!

That’s not all. Add to your wife’s 90% the 1000% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you’ve accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.

But I’m not just talking about marriage.
I’m talking about life!
About your jobs. About your friends. About your children.
About your prayer groups. About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he’s missing? “They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they’ve got personal videos!”

I guarantee you’ll be miserable for the entire trip! Don’t live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. (Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class — because they’re not riding in a private Lear Jet?)

My main message: If you start to bee thankful for what you have right now, wherever you are is first class!

You have wealth under your nose. Be Thankful.

By Bo Sanchez
From his book: You Have the Power to Create

{November 17, 2006}   Happiness is not in Wealth

The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and  asked how long it took to catch them. The Mexican replied only a little while

 The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish.  The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs.

The American then asked, but what do you do with the rest of  your time The Mexican fisherman said, I sleep late, fish a little,  play with my children, take siesta with my wife, stroll into the  village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my  amigos, I have a full and busy life, senor.  The American scoffed, I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You  should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds buy a bigger  boat with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several  boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead  of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the  processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control  the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave  this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA  and eventually New York where you will run your expanding  enterprise.  

The Mexican fisherman asked, But senor, how long will this all take? 

To which the American replied, 15-20 years.  

What then, senor? The American laughed and said that’s the best  part. Then the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your  company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions.  Millions, senor,

Then what asked the Fisherman?The American said, then, you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar.  

The fisherman asked the American, that’s what I am doing now without going through the effort for another 15 – 20 years. Why should I struggle to get the same which I am already having now in my life?  

The American had no answer for that!  

appiness lies not in material comforts or wealth. Happiness is within us and comes from being satisfied with what we achieved in life.

et cetera